We were supposed to go there for the annual family reunion but it turned out that we went there for a funeral =[We (mom, mama Aida and me) left around 7:30am to catch the bus that will be leaving for Hagonoy Bulacan. There were two deaths in the family (father's side). The one is my dad's lola of some sort and the other one was his cousin.....his first cousin =[
It was actually my first time toexperience and witness that kind of scenario. I thought that those who are crying really loud over the deceased loved one and those who even talk to their loved one asking them why they left--i thought those were exaggerated or worse is "scripted". But when i was there seeing the real thing, i, who isn't that really close to the one who died, was totally moved. I too was grieved. I was sad for her 3 young girls, her sisters and brothers and her mom. I saw a while a ago that they really loved her. It was so evident that she had always been a very good daughter, sister and friend.
I wasn't able to spend much time with this tita of mine when she was still alive but the few memories i had with her were wonderful. When i was young, she used to give me teddy bears and other stuff toys from Japan and baby powder. She was so sweet to me and would always invite us to their house. I even remember tha she allowed me to play in their computer. =[
That was the last time i saw her. Her death was very sudden. She was so young and her beautiful children were so young as well. They said that she died because of depression. Her husband left her and went with somebody else and more WORSE problems...worse than i could ever imagine :'(
The whole day I learned a lot. When i heard one of her sisters say, "Ate, bakit mo kami iniwan? Bakit ka sumuko? Bakit hindi mo kami inantay? Andito naman sila Benny ah!", i realized that being with the ones you love and showing them that you are there for them is really important. We often times take it for granted to talk to them or ask them how they are doing. Worse, we even ignore them and show no concern at all even if we see that something is wronng. We even joke around and make fun of them. It opened my eyes to the fact that we should always be there for the people we love. We should never fail to express our care and concern for them. We may be far physically but we can still show our love for them. We could text them, email and call them from time to time to let them know that there is somebody who cares for them and loves them so much and is willing to listen to their problems. Also, when they haven't heard the Word of God, we should not waste any minute NOT sharing it to them. So when they die, we won't regret anything. We won't regret not telling them what they ought to know and we won't regret not giving them the love they need.
On the other hand, i was also reminded that nothing can ever change the fact that someone has died. No matter how loud and how hard we cry, it won't bring them back. We just have to accept it if we lose someone (by death, breakup, etc.). NOTHING can bring them back. Life must go on for us. They will never come back. And when they do.........it's weird. It's not right anymore. Isn't it?
Well, let me just sidetrack you for a while. One of my cousins will get married on the 7th of December and i'm an abay. :-)
So there...i hope you guys got something from this post. I hope that starting now, we would all show our loved ones especially our family how much we love and care for them. We should always remind them, not only through our words, but also through our actions that we are always here for them.^_^
It was actually my first time toexperience and witness that kind of scenario. I thought that those who are crying really loud over the deceased loved one and those who even talk to their loved one asking them why they left--i thought those were exaggerated or worse is "scripted". But when i was there seeing the real thing, i, who isn't that really close to the one who died, was totally moved. I too was grieved. I was sad for her 3 young girls, her sisters and brothers and her mom. I saw a while a ago that they really loved her. It was so evident that she had always been a very good daughter, sister and friend.
I wasn't able to spend much time with this tita of mine when she was still alive but the few memories i had with her were wonderful. When i was young, she used to give me teddy bears and other stuff toys from Japan and baby powder. She was so sweet to me and would always invite us to their house. I even remember tha she allowed me to play in their computer. =[
That was the last time i saw her. Her death was very sudden. She was so young and her beautiful children were so young as well. They said that she died because of depression. Her husband left her and went with somebody else and more WORSE problems...worse than i could ever imagine :'(
The whole day I learned a lot. When i heard one of her sisters say, "Ate, bakit mo kami iniwan? Bakit ka sumuko? Bakit hindi mo kami inantay? Andito naman sila Benny ah!", i realized that being with the ones you love and showing them that you are there for them is really important. We often times take it for granted to talk to them or ask them how they are doing. Worse, we even ignore them and show no concern at all even if we see that something is wronng. We even joke around and make fun of them. It opened my eyes to the fact that we should always be there for the people we love. We should never fail to express our care and concern for them. We may be far physically but we can still show our love for them. We could text them, email and call them from time to time to let them know that there is somebody who cares for them and loves them so much and is willing to listen to their problems. Also, when they haven't heard the Word of God, we should not waste any minute NOT sharing it to them. So when they die, we won't regret anything. We won't regret not telling them what they ought to know and we won't regret not giving them the love they need.
On the other hand, i was also reminded that nothing can ever change the fact that someone has died. No matter how loud and how hard we cry, it won't bring them back. We just have to accept it if we lose someone (by death, breakup, etc.). NOTHING can bring them back. Life must go on for us. They will never come back. And when they do.........it's weird. It's not right anymore. Isn't it?
Well, let me just sidetrack you for a while. One of my cousins will get married on the 7th of December and i'm an abay. :-)
So there...i hope you guys got something from this post. I hope that starting now, we would all show our loved ones especially our family how much we love and care for them. We should always remind them, not only through our words, but also through our actions that we are always here for them.^_^
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